David Graham
2 min readFeb 21, 2022

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Your response is kind of proving my point, you're continuing to try to turn it into a competition over who has it worse, men or women. Which is exactly why we are not getting anywhere with cutting out abuse. Because large numbers of people are constantly trying to turn into a debate over who has it worse, which does nothing other than serve the abusers of the world.

Also, I believe you misinterpret my words, you will see that I highlighted that women are more likely to suffer severe physical abuse. Inevitably that is the case, on average men are able to deliver it and more able to protect against it.

Focusing on it being a male on female problem inevitably though diminishes the opportunities for stopping men who get physically abused from gaining aid, which in turn diminishes the opportunities for women who get physically abused from getting aid. It does this by turning the fight against abuse into a competition between men and women, rather than against abusers, which inevitably benefits nobody other than the abusers of the world.

For example, an abuser will be extremely happy reading our conversation seeing that rather than arguing over how to bring him or her down, we are arguing over whether men or women have it worse. Neither do in some ways and both do in other ways. Which is why the conversation is fruitless.

The way I see it is this, mental abuse with either low levels of violence or no violence, is like stage I cancer, it progresses to stage II cancer when violence becomes more frequent, it progresses to stage III when it becomes extreme.

Everyone no matter who they are can get cancer, but the average man who typically has an advantage physically over the average woman, can better protect against moving from stage I cancer to stage II cancer. He can even further protect against moving from stage II cancer to stage III cancer.

But that doesn't stop men being any less likely to catch cancer. It just means as ever with cancer, men are more susceptible to some forms while women are more susceptible to others. The question you have to ask yourself is, is arguing over who has the worst form of cancer really conducive to ending cancer, or is it better to acknowledge that cancer is cancer and instead focus on trying to defeat all the many forms of cancer that are out there.

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David Graham
David Graham

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Due to injury I write using voice dictation software. Lover of psychology, science, humour, history, fiction & self-improvement. https://linktr.ee/DavidGraham86

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